Being a step parent is hard. If you have ever been one you know exactly what I am talking about. First you have the whole ex-wife issue ! Then you have the early resentment becuase every child wants there parents to be together- no one wants to have thier parents divorced. Then there is the whole "step parent" title that Disney has done a great job of making evil ! Snow White, Cinderella to name a few....
I have had my issues with Teresa and I have been accused of being the evil step parent- even though I am the one that goes out of my way and have gone far beyond what her mother has done for her. I have often been sad that I don't get much "reward" out of the relatiuonship or for everything I have doen for her- meaning she likes to argue and critize me. I have been told that is a teenager for you but I felt that I deserved more since I was not her mom and raised her because I wanted to and not because I had to. I felt that she should appreciate me because she knows what kind of mom she has and how much more I do for her.
Well today I was sitting at my computer and I get an email from her ........
"i know this is random but i just wanted to say thank you for all you do for me and sorry for all ways giving you crap/ drama to deal "
Not sure what got in to her ! but I am not about to complain !!! So I respond...
"you bout made me cry !"
Teresa: "i didnt mean to make you cry...crying is typically not a good thing
Me : "it was this time : ) "
Teresa: "oh okay... did you show it to all you work friends?"
My thoughts is there a motive here ??????? starting to ruin the warm fuzzy feeling......
Me: "ummm- no, am I suppose to ????? is that why you said it ?
Teresa"no normally parents show off when their kids are good.. idk why i said it"
Little does she know that instead of showing it, I am posting it on my blog !!!
I got my reward !!!!!!!!! ~ smile
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Yup, step-parenting is tough work! Thanks for commenting on my post about it. It's nice to know that we are not alone. I agree with your comment that I do things because I choose to, not because I have to. Amen! I think that is what makes the backlashing harder to take, this job is voluntary. Anyway, I loved this post and I long to hear similar words someday. I hope to see you Saturday at InkDots.
thanks for your comment on my blog!
I had a step mom growing up, but I've not been a step parent and I know that's a totally thing to deal with, I can imagine it being hard though. How nice that she was able to show you how she feels and thanking you for all you've done!
You deserve that reward! Being a parent is hard enough, then add everything else and every once and a while a simple thank you or something like it goes a very long way! The pictures are BEAUTIFUL!! We continue to pray for your family!
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